3 Benefits Of Continuing To Blame People, Places And Things For Your Problems.

Are you still blaming your parents for the reason you’re not a stunning success today? Are you still saying to yourself, “gee, if only mom would have loved me better, then I would have had better self-esteem and been able to get the girl or boy I wanted.”? If so, keep doing it! Don’t stop! Blaming others for your problems is a great way to live your life. Let’s examine 3 awesome benefits you get from continuing to blame others, things and places for the state of your crappy life.

First, blaming others and things is easy. You don’t have to think. You simply do it. It comes natural. Why? Because it’s an instinctual reaction to life. The tendency to blame is rooted in our primal mind, our savage mind, our infant mind. We come by it naturally. In essence, it’s our human nature, and therefore comes easily. By continuing to place blame, rather than take responsibility, we can live an easier life through expanding less mental energy.

Second, blaming others keeps us young. We all loved the feelings we had when we were a kid. Even if we had a crappy childhood, there were probably some moments of joy. Those good moments, whether they were extremely few or mountainously plentiful were great and worth remembering. By living according to our childish tendency, which is what the blaming habit is, we get to continue to live in our childhood. An adult takes responsibility for his or her life, an adult recognizes that life was troublesome in childhood, yes crappy things happened, yes good things happened, but they are in the past. An adult feels the feelings he or she needs to feel regarding those past things, and then gets busy recovering from the damage. An adult accepts the wreckage, the damage, and works to make the best of what they have been dealt in life.

But not a child. Oh no, a child remains stuck. It feels good to remain in infancy. It’s more funny and warm and furry. The memory of that safe place, mommy’s womb—or the test tube in some cases—is something that we long for. Somehow, our dreams of childhood, our wish to stay a baby keeps us locked in habits that really do no one any good, especially us. Yet, by practicing them, we get the huge benefit of remaining childish. …and that’s awesome!

The third benefit, though certainly not the last benefit, of blaming others is that we get to stay the same. We get to not do a damn thing to make and build the kind of life we want for ourselves. We get to avoid the hard work of figuring out what we are responsible for in life, what we need to do to make things happen for our liking, what we need to do when it comes to our emotions and attitudes, etc. We get to stay the same, and blame others for our crappy life. We get to avoid taking responsibility for our own happiness. We get to remain dependant on others, on things, on places for our happiness. We get to cry and feel sorry for ourselves…oh doesn’t that feel warm and awesome! I love the feeling of self-pity. Many of you probably do too. So keep doing it. Keep staying in it. And keep avoiding responsibility by blaming. That way you can never amount to a damn thing and not have to feel bad about it because…after all…it’s not your fault. It’s because of them!

To end: I love blame. I think everyone should do it. I think it’s the best way to live life. The other option is just too damned hard, and therefore not worth the effort. Life is too difficult as it is, so who needs to add to the difficulty of life by trying to become fully human, by trying to rise from the ashes of our more primal yesterdays, or by working toward a destiny independent of the them, the those things, or of the this damn place?

Food for thought!